As the holidays approach, Reese faces a dilemma shared by many divorced parents – how to share custody of her young children during the holiday. 

“I think the most important thing is to be a grownup,” she said, “and not let any kind of feelings affect how you deal with your children.” 

For the mother-of-two – who finalized her divorce from Ryan Phillippe in June – that means having “a lot of communication” with her ex-husband and “just being very open.”

“I’m very lucky in that we raise our kids to just be happy,” Reese, 32, said Sunday in Beverly Hills while promoting her film Four Christmases. “I think the most important thing is the children. What do they want, what makes them feel comfortable?” 

In the film, Reese plays the daughter of divorced parents who, at first, lacks any parenting skills. Could Reese relate? 

“When I first held my baby, Ava, [that] was the first time I’d ever held a baby in my life,” she said. “So I understand that sort of fear or not being a good mom. It took me a long time to feel really comfortable in the role of being a mother.” (In addition to Ava, now 9, Reese and Ryan also have a son, Deacon, 5.) 

As for marriage, “I [had] a certain idea what I thought marriage gives,” said Reese – who’s now dating Jake Gyllenhaal, 27. But “sometimes it doesn’t work out that way so you have to be open to whatever comes your way in life. … Love and relationships take all kinds of shapes and it’s not necessarily the ones you recognize.” 

So, would she ever get married again? “I don’t know,” she said, laughing. “I don’t think about it much.” 

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